My husband recently shared with me he’s been listening to an audio book while he’s driving to/from work. He suggested I listen to it after he’s done, and I asked what type of book is it. It’s a motivational speaking type book, he responded. I said I’ll give it a try. Later that week I was emptying all his pockets of his work pants so I could do laundry and I found a piece of paper with some inspirational sayings like “You are strong” ect. At that moment I realized he need’s to hear that kind of stuff more from me.
I always pray for our marriage, for him, for me as a wife and mom to give them what they need. It just hit me like answered prayer, if I want to be better as a wife encouraging my husband would a big part of that. I mean we are constant with the love emoji’s and saying it to where people are grossed out. I have noticed the better I do keeping up with housework and been making meals from scratch, making my own breads ect. He’s been very encouraging of that and letting me know that I’m did a good job and such.
I think we as women need to hear encouraging things from our husbands. We tend to be unsure about things, I need his ok on how I look before leaving the house especially if it’s like church, date,ect. I need to hear him say I did a good job after spending my whole day deep cleaning because I’m just exhausted between cleaning and keeping up with our toddlers. I get so emotionally and spiritually drained and it means so much to me that he takes the time to lift me up.
So how have I not realized that he needs to be lifted up too? I mean from time to time when we are talking and he is feeling down I give him a pep talk, but those are far and few between. I think because he seems sooo strong to me. He works so hard to provide for our family, he also handles paying all the bills because dealing with money really stresses me out big time. I tend to worry way too much when it comes to finances. He knows that and has never asked me to take over doing the bills, he handles all that. He is also such an amazing dad, husband, son, and brother. Family is everything to both of us.
So I gave myself this challenge. Everyday at some point during the day I’m going to send him an encouraging message. Today I sent him one reminding him how lucky and blessed I am to have him as my partner in life. How amazing, strong, kind, and hardworking he is and how proud I am of him with everything he’s doing to provide and make a better life for our family and I’m honored to be his wife and be able to stand beside him on this journey. I know it caught him off guard and may of embarrassed him a little but he sent me back a kissy face emoji. So I know it meant a lot to him.
Wives remember our husbands need us to encourage them also. Take a few moments each day to lift them up. My goal is to be the Proverbs 31 woman that God intended me to be. #wifegoals Yes we are that “old fashion” couple.
Provers 31:10-31 KJV
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.